Assalamu'alaikum,
So as you know, Subhanallah, I have been facing a serious test with my mother-in-law as described in detail in my previous post. I just wanted to clarify that my blog is kind of a secret blog that none of my friends and family are aware of. I needed a place to vent out my frustrations, express myself, and do it with the freedom of knowing that no one knows who I am.
Anyways, I am the type of person that easily forgives and tries my best to forget. Usually, I only forget awful things said and done after the person has come to me and apologized or had shown regret for what they have done. One thing I have a very difficult time forgetting is slander against me. I am the type of person that realizes what I have done wrong and I ask for forgiveness right away (most of the time when I am aware/become aware of it). Unfortunately, people aren't as forgiving as I would hope they would be...but I always tell myself that if I want people to forgive me for my faults...I need to forgive them for theirs.
Well, I want to try to forgive everyone...whether they have come to me with an apology or have not shown any regret. It is not my problem...it is on the person. I do not want the evil of resentment, anger, and hatred to fester in my heart. In order to help me do this, I have been trying to focus on Islam. The lectures I attend are given by a well-educated Muslim woman, an engineer, a home-maker, a mother, a wife, and a daughter. The reason I love her is because she talks about and mentions emotions. She mentions situations, feelings, and thoughts that every woman can relate to. Each woman in the room always comes out saying they feel as if she knows them better than they know themselves, Subhanallah.
I feel like Allah (swt) has been blessing me by bringing these opportunities to learn, to grow, and to find ease. Well, just yesterday I was reading a post about this woman my friends kept mentioning. They put up beautiful quotes she had said in lectures or articles. I googled her and found a bunch of articles, but then I checked videos and Subhanallah, I found a video on hardships. Wow, this was exactly what I needed. She discusses how hardships can be either blessings or punishments. The best part was her explanation that hardships in the form of blessings purify our souls. When we go back to Allah (swt), we need to go back with pure hearts and souls. Hardships in our lives are what purify us and bring us to the state we need to be in (Insha'Allah). She also used a beautiful quote from Rumi...which I will not mention so you can watch it for yourself!
So as you know, Subhanallah, I have been facing a serious test with my mother-in-law as described in detail in my previous post. I just wanted to clarify that my blog is kind of a secret blog that none of my friends and family are aware of. I needed a place to vent out my frustrations, express myself, and do it with the freedom of knowing that no one knows who I am.
Anyways, I am the type of person that easily forgives and tries my best to forget. Usually, I only forget awful things said and done after the person has come to me and apologized or had shown regret for what they have done. One thing I have a very difficult time forgetting is slander against me. I am the type of person that realizes what I have done wrong and I ask for forgiveness right away (most of the time when I am aware/become aware of it). Unfortunately, people aren't as forgiving as I would hope they would be...but I always tell myself that if I want people to forgive me for my faults...I need to forgive them for theirs.
Well, I want to try to forgive everyone...whether they have come to me with an apology or have not shown any regret. It is not my problem...it is on the person. I do not want the evil of resentment, anger, and hatred to fester in my heart. In order to help me do this, I have been trying to focus on Islam. The lectures I attend are given by a well-educated Muslim woman, an engineer, a home-maker, a mother, a wife, and a daughter. The reason I love her is because she talks about and mentions emotions. She mentions situations, feelings, and thoughts that every woman can relate to. Each woman in the room always comes out saying they feel as if she knows them better than they know themselves, Subhanallah.
I feel like Allah (swt) has been blessing me by bringing these opportunities to learn, to grow, and to find ease. Well, just yesterday I was reading a post about this woman my friends kept mentioning. They put up beautiful quotes she had said in lectures or articles. I googled her and found a bunch of articles, but then I checked videos and Subhanallah, I found a video on hardships. Wow, this was exactly what I needed. She discusses how hardships can be either blessings or punishments. The best part was her explanation that hardships in the form of blessings purify our souls. When we go back to Allah (swt), we need to go back with pure hearts and souls. Hardships in our lives are what purify us and bring us to the state we need to be in (Insha'Allah). She also used a beautiful quote from Rumi...which I will not mention so you can watch it for yourself!
Came here through Misha's blog. Always on the lookout for new good Muslim / Islamic blogs to read and glad to have found this!
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We are always being tested in all aspects of our life especially when it comes to our values. It is very clear from your blog, that you are a person with courage, patience and much forgiveness. These qualities highlight the goodness of you so instead of feeling bad about whats going on and trying to isolate the exact reason why your mother in law dislikes you, let it go and be happy. In general in laws are tough to deal with but if you show the kindness and love you seem to possess over time, that will break down all the barriers. In most muslim families, it is difficult for parents to deal with a child marrying someone out of the group or someone not selected by the family so do not be hard on yourself. Inshallah over time your patience and perserverance will show its results.
ReplyDeleteAnd carve your own words in your heart and mind: "people aren't as forgiving as I would hope they would be...but I always tell myself that if I want people to forgive me for my faults...I need to forgive them for theirs." And as an add on to what you said, while you forgive them, you need to embrace yourself for the kindness you bestowed and know your actions are known by Allah!