Assalamu'alaikum,
Today I got an e-mail from one of my childhood friends. There were times we grew apart, times we were convinced we'd kill each other, times we lost touch, and times we were inseparable. Yet in some weird way, we were always best of friends. We always knew we could call each other even if we hadn't called for months. I have four or five friendships that fall under this category and we kind of have our own little group. I like to call them my sisters...and not to be corny...but really because we have the love and bond of sisters and at the same time we can also tear each others hair out like sisters. The group expanded as we moved away from one another and branched out into our own lives. Parts of it broke off from silly teenage drama. Nonetheless, the core group of friends always remained intact.
Anyways, there was one thing she said that seemed out of place and stood out from the rest of the e-mail. It was something that we all knew but never really talked about. She wrote, "We always clicked...I have never made a friend like you anywhere else." I also know that includes the rest of the girls...not just me...but being thousands of miles away from them...it really hit home.
We met around the time when I was in Pre-K. We started off in the same town and gradually our parents took us our separate ways. We went to completely different high schools and colleges far apart. We grew up to become unique people with few similarities. Somehow through Allah (swt) and technology (AIM)...we managed to make it through all that. We made tons of freinds...lost most of them...and we always ended back together. It almost sounds like the Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants...except it was different in a way.
After marriage, I felt a distance form between all of us that I really thought this time it was it. We wouldn't be able to go back to normal. Heck...one of the girls turned Shia(not that I have anything against them...she just separated herself a little more b/c of it), the second one hated that I married an Arab, the third one married someone who took her away to lala land, and the fourth one just hated that we were all married and she wasn't. Adding to all that...I moved across the world.
Surprisingly...Allah (swt) showed us a different plan. I talk to them more now...than I did when I first got married. All the other people that I thought I had grown so close to...people that I thought understood me in ways that my original group couldn't...they were the ones that let that distance separate us. My sisters were the ones that bought webcams so we could skype, that e-mail me, that take the time out to look at all my pictures and comment on each one. They are the ones that calculate the time difference...and wait for me to talk. I love them and I never want to lose what I have with them...and I am so glad that we didn't let all the things working against us separate us. I have tried so hard to make friends like that wherever I go...and I have never been able to form bonds like the one me and my sisters have.
So if you have a friend like that and there may be some distance creeping up between the two of you...crush it now...and don't let it grow. There are some friendships that you can never replace.
Today I got an e-mail from one of my childhood friends. There were times we grew apart, times we were convinced we'd kill each other, times we lost touch, and times we were inseparable. Yet in some weird way, we were always best of friends. We always knew we could call each other even if we hadn't called for months. I have four or five friendships that fall under this category and we kind of have our own little group. I like to call them my sisters...and not to be corny...but really because we have the love and bond of sisters and at the same time we can also tear each others hair out like sisters. The group expanded as we moved away from one another and branched out into our own lives. Parts of it broke off from silly teenage drama. Nonetheless, the core group of friends always remained intact.
Anyways, there was one thing she said that seemed out of place and stood out from the rest of the e-mail. It was something that we all knew but never really talked about. She wrote, "We always clicked...I have never made a friend like you anywhere else." I also know that includes the rest of the girls...not just me...but being thousands of miles away from them...it really hit home.
We met around the time when I was in Pre-K. We started off in the same town and gradually our parents took us our separate ways. We went to completely different high schools and colleges far apart. We grew up to become unique people with few similarities. Somehow through Allah (swt) and technology (AIM)...we managed to make it through all that. We made tons of freinds...lost most of them...and we always ended back together. It almost sounds like the Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants...except it was different in a way.
After marriage, I felt a distance form between all of us that I really thought this time it was it. We wouldn't be able to go back to normal. Heck...one of the girls turned Shia(not that I have anything against them...she just separated herself a little more b/c of it), the second one hated that I married an Arab, the third one married someone who took her away to lala land, and the fourth one just hated that we were all married and she wasn't. Adding to all that...I moved across the world.
Surprisingly...Allah (swt) showed us a different plan. I talk to them more now...than I did when I first got married. All the other people that I thought I had grown so close to...people that I thought understood me in ways that my original group couldn't...they were the ones that let that distance separate us. My sisters were the ones that bought webcams so we could skype, that e-mail me, that take the time out to look at all my pictures and comment on each one. They are the ones that calculate the time difference...and wait for me to talk. I love them and I never want to lose what I have with them...and I am so glad that we didn't let all the things working against us separate us. I have tried so hard to make friends like that wherever I go...and I have never been able to form bonds like the one me and my sisters have.
So if you have a friend like that and there may be some distance creeping up between the two of you...crush it now...and don't let it grow. There are some friendships that you can never replace.
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